Ask Psychic Shirley Column from the New Issue of THE HAPPY TIMES
Dear Psychic Shirley
“I am trying to prepare to sell things I either no longer need or that could bring in some useful extra cash. However I’m having a hard time letting go? Why is that? And how can I scoot the insecurities away and start getting on it. It’ll mean more free space. From Julia Lesner
Dear Julia,
You’re having a hard time letting go because you feel that you are the keeper of the past - not just for you but for your family as well. Somewhere, somehow you were assigned - or perhaps assigned yourself - the role of family historian. You feel that letting go of the clutter is tantamount to letting go of those people whose lives are connected to what others might perceive as junk but which you perceive as treasure because of the memories connected to the items. Who was in the kitchen with you when you first squeezed those lemons into lemonade using that Home Shopping Network juicer? Who taught you how to program the timer on that broken Gevalia coffeemaker? Who told you that you looked lovely in those thigh high patent leather boots that looked so fun in the store but that you never once took out of the box once you brought them home? The best way for you to let go is to realize that the memories are in your mind, not in the material objects. What if you took pictures of those items that have the best memories attached to them? Make a scrapbook and write cute little anecdotes under the pictures. Invite your friends and family over and have a “going away” party for the goods. Celebrate the fact that the intimate connection you have is with your friends and family, NOT the objects. I’d like you to be curious about why you are feeling insecure about doing all of this. I sense that you feel you are going to disappoint someone if you don’t hold onto your clutter for dear life. But, Julia, focus on how much dearer life will be when you clear the clutter. Let go! Let flow! May your cash and energy be abundant this year! My best to you. Dear Psychic Shirley, I started dating someone two months ago but I’m leaving to study abroad next week and I’ll be gone for 5 months. I think I love him but we didn’t have enough time to truly find out. Will he be waiting for me when I return? Is it worth staying committed to him even though we will be half a world apart? Signed, Lovestruck Dear Lovestruck, I sense a real bond between the two of you. I feel that he understands your commitment to your education and he will wait for you to return. However, I’m vibing that you’re the one who may meet someone in your travels…you have a flirtatious nature…so make sure you know what you want before you say no to what you want. Safe travels!
